Could you describe your practice in 5 words?

Erotic, Holistic, Connection, Vulnerability and Power.

How did you get into it?

I always was interested in sexuality. I moved to Amsterdam to study Gender and Sexuality at UvA and while there, I found an ad from a Brazilian practitioner offering Taoist Erotic Massage. Messaged him asking if he was open to teaching me and he said yes. Loved it! But the reason I learned was to spice things up with my boyfriend. Never thought I would end up working with it.

What kind of guys come for your services? Why?

I’ve been working with Erotic Massage for 15 years. I have a wide range of people coming to see me. If I can speak broadly, I would say guys who’re looking for a holistic erotic experience, you don’t need a specific reason to pursue that. If you also have a physical issue to be addressed, then this massage is a bonus, the best of both worlds. Being able to stop time, lie down and experience pleasure in the most wholesome way is a luxury. They come looking for that. 

Tell us two most memorable client moments. (Most inspirational, moving, transformative)

The first who comes to mind was someone who had had prostatectomy (surgery to remove the prostate due to cancer). He explained to me what had happened and was willing to try a different way to experience pleasure. He was very open minded, but wasn’t expecting too much. He ended up having an orgasm, which he wasn’t able to do up till that point. What made that moment special to me was that he teared up after realising a new way to achieve that. Another one was someone who, right from the start, was giving me shivers. It was like I was experiencing what he was experiencing. I remember a moment he touched my leg and it was electrifying. I had similar experiences, but he was the first one and I was overwhelmed by the powerful connection. 

You’ve seen a lot of cocks. Do you have a favourite type, you find most pleasurable to service? 

After so many years, you get to appreciate all types of cocks. My favourite type is the one I am in complete control and learned how to keep the energy not only flowing but going back and forth. It’s when I feel like a true cock whisperer. But if I have to say a specific type, usually the cut ones, regardless if big or small. I’m cut, so I know how it feels and how to handle it.

What are the biggest misconceptions about your practice?

That it’s a fancy handjob. You can call it that, but it’s reductive. There’s a difference between having an orgasm and ejaculating. And it’s a full body orgasm, something a handjob alone would hardly achieve. 

What is your edging approach with clients?

The edging happens after a body massage, so there’s a relaxed and unhurried anticipation to it. Their body is being thoroughly prepared before I even touch their cock. The natural progression, from a regular massage to an erotic one, hit the right buttons and when it comes to that, half of the job is already done. But from that moment, you have to be as open minded as the person in front of you, because I’m about to learn what works and what doesn’t. I have an arsenal of strokes and I can sense when it’s getting closer or when it’s getting further. If it’s getting too close, spread it out. Get that energy spread throughout the body and come back to harness a bit more. Basically my approach is: listen to what their body is telling me to do. 

What’s your personal strategy cum strategy? (Do you stay on edge, to cum by at times, how and why?)

I stay on edge till the end of the day. This is a fuel I can’t waste if I still have more to do during the day. But I don’t have a ritual when the time has come for my release. I can use my imagination, I can use the help of someone; if I am tired, it’s better to keep it for the next day. If I can’t sleep, I have to release to be able to quiet my mind. It’s an overwhelmingly sexually charged work environment; many times I am buzzing way after my last appointment. 

What advice would you give those looking to learn what you do?

Passion first, practice second, and techniques third. There is a range of techniques, but all of them are adaptable for shapes, sizes and desires. And you will master this with practice, practice and a bit more practice. I’m telling you, you won’t run out of people wanting to offer themselves for your edgecation.