Bator Bro is a space for intimacy, self discovery and friendship.
Our monthly Sunday event runs like a kink community and support group. It’s a 5-hour long jerk off party with over 150 participants, striking the balance between a bustling social and intimate orgy. Bator Bro is a forum for conversations around sexuality and connection.
We are an alternative sex space for those seeking sensuality and sobriety, through group masturbation.
The boundaries of no oral or penetration heighten the erotic energy, leading to creative expressions, through touch, hands, kissing, body worship and energy exchange.
The parties began in London in February 2023 happen every 4th Sunday of each month. Its sister event Le Freq (The Frequency), focused on sex-positive wellness and art workshops, has seen 3 editions. It’s run by Nick Woof and a team of ‘Big Bros’, active members of the community who volunteer to keep things running smoothly.
the elements that make up bator bro
Community
We foster sharing of experiences.
Each month, a Telegram chat allows attendees to know each other, build anticipation and share banter, while showcasing bate culture. We host Welcum socials, an-hour before the event, as an icebreaker and to ease-in new joiners. While most jack-off club events run for two hours, Bator Bro is a five hour marathon. Finally, there’s the ‘Afterglow’, a post-event, three-hour social to further bond with your bros.
The day after Bator Bro, reflections and gratitude continue on the event chat. We host a Bator Radio chat on X where 8-10 newbies and regulars discuss hot moments at the party. It doesn’t end there, our guests can join the wider community chat to stay informed of workshops, socials and cool projects.The more experienced and involved members of the community are playfully referred to as ‘Big Bros’, as they help out and give insight to those newer to the scene.
‘Big Bros’
Big Bros are the lifeblood of the movement.
This team is chosen to support newbies, help with the set-up and run community initiatives (Welcum, Fanzine, Broduction). They are regulars to the event and represent diversity in ethnicity, background and experiences. Their insight and reliability keeps things running. You can spot them wearing an armband at the events, they’ll have your back if you need them.
Broduction
Bator Bro strives to build an atmosphere where ‘exposing’ feels intimate and sexy.
Traditional sex spaces tend to be quite dark, but being born from Zoom rooms where there is a focus on seeing, Bator Bro strives to build an atmosphere where ‘exposing’ feels intimate and sexy. We currently run in a photography studio, in Hackney Wick (London). The set design for the events, from the moody lighting to the atmospheric music, aims to make the experience as unapologetically cinematic and stylish as possible.
Conversations
Bator Bro is a forum for conversations.
A large part of those happen on Twitter. To this date, we’ve hosted over 40 Twitter Spaces, live broadcasts where anyone can join in the conversation. Either sharing our experiences the day after the events or having in-depth conversations on subjects like poppers and gooning, there is a mission to normalize, educate and share experiences and points of view around bating and connection.
Check out Bator Radio.
Bator Bro Party has been featured in
BUTT magazine
