Edging Coach, when and how did you start edging guys?

In 2013, I saw a video online featuring a man being edged and immediately realized I wanted to try it out. So, I used Craigslist to find a guy who wanted edged and tried it for the first time in 2013.

How many guys have edged so far?

Unfortunately, I have not kept a personal tally for myself but I’d guess around 180-200 men.

How do you approach people to edge them?

There are lots of ways that I have approached guys to edge them. My most common strategy is this – I have a “business card” that explains it a little and has a link to my website, social media and an email address for them to contact me. If I’m out and about somewhere and see a guy that I want to edge I will hand him the card directly and say something like “this is for you” OR leave it on their car/truck window to discover later. It’s worked out more times than it hasn’t worked out! Some guys are within this industry and it’s much easier to have a conversation with them about it. 

What advice would those looking to be a bull / edgee?

To be edged, a guy needs to understand the importance of communication between the Bull and the Coach. The Coach uses verbal and sound cues to know when a bull is close to orgasm and when to stop etc. For me, having a silent bull is hard because it’s a guessing game for me. Communication is key! It’s also important to understand the cues your own body is giving you before orgasm so that you can help notify your Coach at the proper time – before it’s too late! Being open minded to the guidance of your Coach is also super important, as your Coach should guide you through the process to help you learn and become more comfortable. 

What kind of guys do you edge? 

Mentally speaking, I like to edge confident men who need relief from the stresses of their daily life (don’t we all!). In a physical sense, since I really enjoy the coach and player roleplay, I usually tend to edge guys that are sporty, jockish or sportsmanlike in some way. Penis size does not matter to me as long as it is attached to a good personality. An edging session is a two-way experience and the men I edge need to be able to be an active participant in the session just as much as I am as the coach.

Where do you do it? 

Edging sessions can take place pretty much anywhere! I have edged guys all over the place from on the beach, to the woods, in a camper, in the mountains, in a car, at the airport, in a hotel, in an alley, under a dock, in a sauna, in a bathhouse, a national Park & more! Most commonly I use a specific room in my home or a hotel room. Some sessions are quicker than others when time is of the essence! Location is important but also can be a spontaneous and spur of the moment choice.

What are your biggest insights from edging other guys?

One really important thing I’ve learned and that I like to point out to others is that masturbation in general has no sexual orientation. All men masturbate! All men have an urge for their hand or other hands to be on their penis, stroking it, worshiping it, edging it and milking it. I have had edging sessions with guys who identify as straight, bisexual, and gay. Most of the men I edge identify as straight men and are looking for help in learning how to extend their pleasure and control their orgasm. Trusting and allowing another man to edge your penis is a bond forming experience and can be very empowering. It is a learning experience. 

What’s your edging philosophy? 

As a coach, my main objective is to help my “player” or bull to become more confident, empowered, and to give them release through orgasm. I like to focus on forming a coach and player bond, offering positive affirmations and confidence boosting statements throughout the session. To me, this is important in helping each man be proud of themselves and the penis they have. Some edgers tend to be more of a hard dominant type and focus on the control aspect and have more of a torture or punishment as style and that’s just not for me. I am more of a soft dominant coach who will use guidance and positive reinforcement to build sexual confidence. Another important part of each session is where I give the edging subject a “team” nickname. I choose a name to call them by based off of various things such as their appearance or even sometimes their penis characteristics. It is an important part of the session because it gives them an identity of sorts and can be a big part of the empowering aspect of the session. Who doesn’t like being part of a team? 

How does one become a master of cum control/edger? 

I would say the best way to get started is to find a buddy who allows you to experiment different stroking techniques on his penis and make sure it is a buddy who understands the concept of edging. Finding out what type of edging coach you want to be is important as well so that you can establish a style and offer a specific experience to the guys you choose to edge.

Tell us your most memorable edging story. 

This is a really hard one! My most favorite probably would have to be the first time I edged a bull who I named Aidan. We were both on vacation in a very popular gay beach town on the eastern coast. Because each of us were staying with friends, neither of us could host the session at our vacation rental. A spur of the moment decision took us to a national seashore park that is a mix of giant sand, dunes and forest thickets. We made our way into the woodsy area, where he got shirtless while he walked in front of me, his tall muscular body glistening in the sun with sweat. After a couple trial and error spots, we finally landed against a fallen en tree log where I etched him to. The sounds of rustling leaves, seabreeze in our ears and noses and the excitement of being in a somewhat public area was exhilarating! Once he finally let out his cumshot, it was a big one! A job well done! We formed an awesome bond from that experience together. I got to edge him more during that vacation and we’ve kept in touch since.